[some] children are admired for their socially adept yet belligerent behavior. this smaller subtype, popular-antisocial children, includes "tough" boys, - athletically skilled but poor students who cause trouble and defy adult authority - and relationally aggressive boys and girls who enhance their own status by ignoring, excluding, and spreading ( Read more... )

relational aggression damages another's peer relationships through social exclusion, malicious gossip, or friendship manipulation.

most common among girls.

[from my psych textbook]